The Other West Moore Blog Prompt: Page 100: "Have you ever had to give someone news that you knew would break their heart? How did you build up the courage?"

 Blog Prompt Question:


Page 100: The other Wes Moore needed to tell his mother that he got Alicia pregnant. Have you ever had to give someone news that you knew would break their heart? How did you build up the courage?



I often look back on the time I had to end a five-year relationship that was hurting rather than healing me because I feel like I'm experiencing the need to deliver something that would shatter someone's heart. Even if everything appeared to be going well at the time, it was surprising for me to take this action because I was stuck in a situation where I wasn't actually happy. I had to find the strength to let go and tell my ex-boyfriend that I was unable to continue because of this. It's always easier said than done. I recall the night I did it; I was incredibly anxious, trembling, and I had to put the phone down every time. Before someone can deliver terrible news, a process takes place in which numerous thoughts enter your head. You should always analyze the advantages and negatives and be absolutely certain that this is the choice you want to make. 


I even recall my roommate at the time asking me if I was sure I wanted to do this and if I was prepared to go, and I said that I was because if I didn't break out of this cycle of hurt and healing, hurt and healing, and hurt and healing now, I would remain in it forever. The Second Wes Moore had to tell his mother about a what he had done.

He needed to be ready because the result could have gone either one of two ways. Wes was getting depressed at the prospect of having a child, but he couldn't figure out why his and Alicia's relationship was special, according to the second paragraph on page 100. Many of our parents have had that "talk" with us as we've grown up in the event that anything similar occurs, and they expect us to do the same anytime we find ourselves in a similar situation. But it goes well beyond that, especially if you find yourself in a predicament where you're young and unprepared for a child. I'd rather call it unexpected than heartbreaking. As I've already said, each outcome is unique and depends on the delivery as well as the response. Resuming my narrative, I was ultimately able to generate the bravery to do so after talking to a few more of my closest friends; they were able to support me both before and after my decision. He caused me so much pain, and even if we may have gotten past it, the scars from everything I have gone through still sit on my heart. I know that it will not only break his heart but would also leave him bewildered. Even when we don't want to, we sometimes have to love by letting go. I had to make the decision that was best for me since there are instances when holding on will hurt us more than letting go. The fact that we had been together for so long and that so many people had been rooting for us meant that it wasn't the best news to break. However, it's never about the quality of the relationship itself; rather, it's about the quality of what it can bring out in a person. In doing so, I injured myself since I was trying to make him better than he made me. Some wonderful things happened in the interim, but they can never compare to the times I sat and sobbed myself to sleep and felt hurt. 



    In the case of the other West Moore, it just took one night, one choice, and one instant for him to decide that his mother should become a grandmother. It's not always easy to break bad news to people since not everyone will respond the way you expect them to, but it's all about the way it's delivered and the intention behind it. I felt like I was being ungrateful by forcing him to do something that he obviously doesn't want to do for me because I was deliberately trying to do what was best for the two of us. To put it another way, whatever decisions we make about how to present news that might not be so flavorful, we should always remember that it's not what you say that matters, it's how you say it.


Comments

  1. Anna Henriquez May 4, 2023 at 1:45 PM

    Hey Carissa!
    Great post, i loved the quote you included in your post. I believe that if we allow someone to become our priority, it can be hard for us to focus on ourselves and grow mentally. We should definitely be there for others and always offer them our support but we should always keep in mind that we are human and should always watch over ourselves and our mental health.

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